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See below for clear tips to help your relationships.
What is really great about the fact you found this page is that you are making a commitment to look for ways to improve things. You may be young, middle-aged, or a senior. This may be your first marriage or your second or third. You may have children, or you may be gaining a stepchild. What is important is that you are exploring and learning how to make it better!
If you are not married here are some things to help you get ready for the plunge before you dive in.
1. Understand that your spouse-to-be will not change
People often share that they were aware of their partner’s flaws before getting married. About 95 percent of the time, they believe the behaviour will change. It’s important to realize that your spouse will not change, and, in fact, character imperfections will likely worsen—or become more apparent—over time. Determine if you can live with your partner’s personality quirks forever—before you tie the knot.
2. Choose a partner who shares your financial views
Money is the most common cause of divorce. Couples often have wildly differing philosophies about how to handle finances and, once married, it can be difficult to harmonize separate value systems. If you choose someone who shares your views the two shall become one! You really need to be on the same page with this.
After the wedding:
3. Recognize that marriage is hard work
Begin your marriage with the idea that you will work together every day on the marriage. Being married is a work in progress. Be proactive, not reactive. Problems when they arise instead of waiting for tension to escalate into an argument that explodes between you. Don’t forget the little things that attracted you to your spouse in the beginning, especially when you’re managing a time of conflict. You may see each other every day, but that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t take the time to appreciate one another.
4. Go to a marriage counsellor regularly
Don’t wait for a fight to break out before seeking help from a relationship. Be proactive, not reactive. You go to a trainer at a gym. why not use your employee health benefits to make sure your relationship is healthy. We are covered by most providers.
5. Decide to grow together
Many people marry before exploring their views on important issues. Before marriage, take classes on spending, child rearing, religion or any other sensitive topics. Get educated together. When you’re on the same page, the two of you can decide how to handle complex issues before they come up.
6. See that you both have the same day off, once a week
To be strong as a unit you need to take time together. Relax one morning a week. Cuddle and talk in bed. Catch up on the week, vent about work or share a funny story. Lock the door. Connect. No kids allowed.
7. Share a hobby
find a common interest that will bring you together. Take dance lessons. Go fly a kite!. Listen to a playlist you both like on Spotify.